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Saturday, November 27, 2010

Never Trust A Sugar Baby Who Lies About Being Married

Addendum: I Changed the title of this post, per reader's request. See? I am a good listener!

Why? That's the only kind that nearly scammed me, that's why.
A brief summary of the story:

I figured out she was married due to something that looked like a curfew, whenever we met, so I called her on it and she fessed up.

We had an arrangement for a few months during which we of course had a great time, but also other elements of the character came out. She was very intelligent (a good thing, as I like intelligent women). Also very observant, and very planning. And this planning would extend to cleaning up her tracks meticulously so as not to be found out. Picking restaurants near hotels where we could spend quality time together. Opening up separate bank accounts for the arrangement amount. All the good stuff that I used to do. So, I thought to myself: Would I trust me? hmmmm, don't answer that :)

She is, therefore, perfectly placed and equipped to take off. After all, if she is newly married (about 1 year) and cheats on her husband in such a calculating way, what makes anyone think she will honor an agreement with a perfect stranger sugar daddy.

Whoever answers that to my satisfaction gets a dinner at Oceana.

And sure enough, I gave her some money to go purchase certain goods and services we needed for a project we were doing (a small amount since I didn't trust her). She sent me an email saying she is so tied up at work she will not be able to make it and she is really sorry. Sure.
Which is a bit strange because I had promised her an iPad after the job was done, and was prepared to get it for her. So I guess she preferred the easy way our rather than deliver on her promise and get more rewards in the end. Go figure!

12 Comments:

Blogger Caribbean Princess said...

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November 27, 2010 at 8:48 PM  
Blogger Caribbean Princess said...

sorry I re read the blog, I was a bit lost in translation.

So you and her met and seemed to have reach an arrangemente, I guess you gave her some money, small amount since you didnt trust her enough..right?

You offered her an iPad when the project was done, Im guessing next time you wanted to meet her, she said no, she was too busy and just called it quits.Right?

Now, I think you of everyone, knows that when someone is busy..is busy....like writting a certain book, or investing in a new project and even when you had shown real interest in meeting someone, if its not the right time..its not the right time.

SHould one trust you any less because you are legitimate busy? I dont think so.

Most of the SD are indeed married, so why a SB who is married is not to be trusted? yes, Im sure she might not have such a flexible schedule, and one should come clean if asked, no room for lies.But if a SD doesnt ask, is not a lie, you just dont tell. Right? IMHo


ps

I got my iPad few weeks ago from a very generous SD and flying to Fl in few more days for seconds. Every SB should get an iPad for XMas this year :)

November 27, 2010 at 8:57 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

"After all, if she is newly married (about 1 year) and cheats on her husband in such a calculating way, what makes anyone think she will honor an agreement with a perfect stranger sugar daddy."

I think you could ask the same question of ANY married sugar daddy who is cheating on his wife in such a calculating way. Obviously, there are married (even newly) sugar daddies who hold up their end of the bargain.

In my opinion, this double-standard of cheating on one's spouse but honoring an agreement with a sugar is due in part to the very different nature of a marriage arrangement in comparison to a sugar arrangement. In marriage, monogamy is assumed as the default, and is not up for debate. It is also extremely complicated to get out of a marriage, unlike a NSA arrangement. (Of course, everyone already knows this, just reiterating.) People (both men and women) often have a vested interest in seemingly maintaining the status quo in their marriages, even at the cost of lying. Even in an extremely calculated and careful manner. In an NSA relationship, however, participants should theoretically be able to be honest about their situations, set their own terms, and renegotiate the arrangement as necessary to meet their needs. If you are able to create your own terms (such as in a sugar relationship), then why would you dishonor them? Obviously people dishonor the terms of their sugar relationships all the time, but I believe this quality of sugar arrangements makes them more likely to be honored that marriage parameters, which are often determined by the status quo in society and not up for negotiation.

It seems to me like this particular sugar was not honest about her situation or her needs (that she is married and needs to take steps X, Y, and Z to keep this arrangement secret from her partner). Thus, she was treating this sugar arrangement as if its parameters were predetermined (like in her marriage), instead of being honest about her needs and limitations and creating an arrangement that truly met her needs. Because she was approaching the situation this way, of course she would be dishonest with her SD like she was with her husband. But this doesn't have to do with her being married so much as it has to do with her attitude in approaching the arrangement (a dishonest one).

So perhaps this post should instead be titled, "Never Trust A Sugar Baby Who Lies About Being Married." That is a rule of thumb I could get behind.

November 28, 2010 at 4:59 AM  
Blogger How To Make A Man Fall In Love With You said...

I have a question for you SD David. Why would you do in this situation? If you came into the knowledge that your wife was a sugar mama, what would be you reaction? What would you say to her? Would you look at her any differently as you do now? How would you feel if you found out that she has been a sugar mama for, let's say, the past 10 years? I would really love it if you could address this in a separate blog post all by itself.

By the way, I love reading your blog and I have read it in entirety. I enjoy your naughty little sugar adventures. Have a nice day.

November 28, 2010 at 8:03 AM  
Blogger Caribbean Princess said...

"this doesn't have to do with her being married so much as it has to do with her attitude in approaching the arrangement (a dishonest one. Never Trust A Sugar Baby Who Lies About Being Married."


completely and whole heartly agree~ if all is set on the table and spooken for and set ground rules about the arrangement I dont see why it cant work for a married SB.

Zoey expressed my sentiments exactly..she deserves the dinner at Oceana :)

November 28, 2010 at 12:40 PM  
Blogger David said...

@Zoey: I changed the title of the post. It actually looks better now.

@S.J.Thanks! And I will write a post about that soon. The answer may surprise you in its honesty. And, by the way, it's something I have thought about in the past

November 28, 2010 at 6:59 PM  
Blogger Caribbean Princess said...

@ David...merciiii!

What am I chopped hispanic liver? I dont get a reply...

:(

November 28, 2010 at 9:57 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

Sooooo, does that mean I won? ;)

November 29, 2010 at 12:25 AM  
Blogger David said...

@Zoey: yes it does :)

November 29, 2010 at 3:53 AM  
Blogger How To Make A Man Fall In Love With You said...

Well SD David, I am glad to hear that you will make a post about this. So go right ahead and surprise me.

November 29, 2010 at 5:52 AM  
Blogger SugarSugarElle said...

Well David, I don't need an ipad for xmas... but shame on the SB that withheld that info. It was, however, a SD that help shed light on my own disastrous union, thank God!

November 29, 2010 at 4:14 PM  
Blogger David said...

@Elle: this is interesting. When she fessed up, and told me about all her various marital issues, we did conclude that she probably needs marriage counseling. Maybe us SD's provide some good advice after all.
Hope it all works out well.

November 29, 2010 at 5:02 PM  

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