What makes a great SB?

Interesting question.

One SB I once knew years ago in NY put it: 'You want my sexy bod, and I want your lovely green': talking about not mincing words. She was definitely not the best SB I have ever met, even though she was one of the most attractive ones.

Sometimes I just get put off by people's money greed. I like money more than most people, especially since I am around money and some rich individuals, professionally. But to hear someone go on and on about it is a turn off. So I would say what makes an SB distinguish herself from the rest is her discretion when it comes to that. She can ask, but it is how she does it that makes the difference, and most people get it wrong. Nina is a perfect example. She doesn't say: 'I want $$$$ per month'. She says, 'my birthday is coming up', and then puts a great smile on her face and looks me straight in the eye in a way that says 'do it buddy or else'. Class! And she demands attention, even in her soft spoken voice.

Another chacteristic of a great SB is the way she handles herself in public, at a nice restaurant. Is she polite to the service? or is she arrogant? Does she put people down? Good table manners, elegance, etc. Amanda had all these great things, but then she blows it by standing me up! Go figure.

Is she educated? or at least does she have some goals in her life (other than relieving me from my money, that is)?
So you get the picture: at least pretend you have class, and you will be treated like a lady.

Last but not least, chemistry is very important: If there is no chemistry I feel as if I am doing a chore, even if I sleep with you. And even if we do sleep together, it will be a one time thing. If chemistry is there, this can last a long time, at least until it becomes 'dangerous' for both.

What happens if the 'arrangement' part spills over into one's real life. For those SDs and SBs that are married, look out!

I always liked the European (or is it just the French?) model for this. You find one real good SB, and she is your mistress for a long time. You see her every now and then, share the good moments, open up with each other, and also be there with advice, someone to talk to etc. Now that's nice, and that's what I have been trying to find. Found it once only in the past, with Malone. She had education (law school), maturity (she was 28), looks, the best chemistry ever. And she never stood me up:) We broke it off for various personal reasons. If I was closer to her age and unmarried I would have grabbed her.

The ideal SB: all of the above. Maybe not model looks or extravagant dress up, but the whole package in the right combinations that just spells class, seductiveness, and good conversation, all in one.