Some SB's have called me an egotistical pussy collector. Others have called me a sweet man, a great lover, an ugly bastard, hideous, charming and handsome. So the range of adjectives has been pretty wide. Which, if anything, is true? They all are of course!

Relationships are not one way streets and I really do believe that we reflect each other, i.e. depending on how the two people interact, different facets of personality can come out. For example, If I perceive that someone is trying to take advantage of me do you think my sweet side is going to come out? No. Quite the opposite, the scamming side will come out.

On the other hand, if I see that someone is trusting and tries to form some type of bond, then my real self will come out, i.e. the charming, easy going side.

But even then trust has to start somewhere and one of the two parties has to make the first move to gain that trust. So who goes first then? Does the SB make the first move to that end and let herself go, and see beyond the arrangement? Or does the SD go first? I propose that if the SD is married, he must always keep up his guard, as he has a lot to lose. So in that case it would be up to the SB to decide if she wants to have a more long term type of arrangement, and make the fist step and try to make the relationship a bit more real. So in that respect she is putting herself in sort of a vulnerable position, but I think in the long term it may be worth it.

Take Malone for example. For all her southern charm, she only gave me her real first name months after we met. Or other SB's that string multiple SD's along for the ride, in the mean while skimming their $$$ while not giving anything in return. Is that behavior one that inspires friendship, and the desire to be with one for a long time? Not really. That's one reason that SD David doesn't hang out long enough. He has seen others been taken advantage of, and is determined that will not happen to him. But more on that later.