Serena, Serena, Serena...

"I'm retiring for good this time," I announced.

With a concerned look Serena responded, "Why, what happened? Does this mean we won't be seeing each other anymore?"

"No, honey bunny you're not in the sugar category," I reassured her.

I explained how tiring it was to constantly be used for my money. While the thrill of sugar dating appealed to me it was beginning to feel like a chore. Girls like Lil' Kim were the worse - no brain cells or personality and all she kept asking for was money.

"Well, you know these girls treat you the same way you treat them," said Serena, "I understand why you stop seeing them fairly quickly but trying to find someone my age who is pretty and isn’t always thinking, ‘Me, me, me’ in the sugar world is not easy.”

Serena has these serious moments that make her all the more irresistible. And she didn’t stop there, she continued, “The problem with the whole sugar business is that no one wants to get the short end of the stick. There is this constant battle between SDs and SBs to outdo each other in who uses the other more. Both sides expect the other to put out first even before building a relationship. Men want the sex and girls want the money but its just not sustainable. That way of thinking will only get both parties so far and leave them feeling jaded.”

Good points I thought to myself but not good enough so I asked her what makes her successful in her journey.

“First of all, there’s you. You are probably the most jaded person when it comes to women/girls/ sugar but I got you to get past all that and I built both a personal and sexual relationship with you. And don’t take this the wrong way but I trust that when I really need help that you will be there for me.” Now there’s a word I don’t hear very much in the sugar world, trust.

“There is also charisma. I have met many men and have had a number of serious relationships that have helped me develop the kind of flirtatious yet all accepting and calming presence that gets them to relax, talk and of course to trust me. These qualities however, cannot be faked - they must be genuine.”

“Why go through all that trouble if what you want from an SD is an allowance?” I asked because I love playing the devil’s advocate.

“Agreeing on a set amount every month doesn’t guarantee to either party that the other person will be around a week later. If there is no relationship established then why would the SB or the SD feel obligated to stick around? There are no reasons which is why SDs and SBs whine about how lousy the other is all the time including you.”

“Me? I don’t whine,” I said pouting to which she let out a sensuous and deep belting laughter.

“Sure, you don’t whine,” she teased me.

I felt bad when a week later she asked me for help and I turned her down in an ungentlemanly manner. Part of me wanted to protect myself and the feelings I was starting to develop for her by being an asshole.

She e-mailed me shortly after that incident to tell me that she missed me and I couldn’t resist seeing her. Where are we now? You ask. We’re seeing each other again and yes she is getting the help that she needs. Trust is not easy after going through all the bullshit I’ve been through with SBs/women/girls but for Serena I will try.

And I venture that I have developed a bond with her that one could say is called familiarity and affection...