Education of a speculator, errrr a SD

How did I even get started on the SD path? It was certainly the furthest thing from my mind a while back as a younger person. I did have some 'role models' growing up and have posted another entry about them some time ago. But I always believed that I wouldn't need money to attract the opposite sex, and of course in the younger days I did not, for sure. I don't need to offer money for companionship or sex now either, but something changed in recent years.

Rewind to 10+ years ago. I have had several escorting experiences since I was a teen. It was part of the whole culture of entering manhood, like a ritual of sorts in that part of the world. I used to travel there for the whole summer, and I figured that the best way to develop my skills in bed is to learn from the pro's. And I did hang out (i.e. used the services) of pro's of all ages and shapes. My favorite one was a 35 year old that I would visit almost every week. I think she thought I was cute or pitiful or both and she spent lots of time with me. So I learned a bit of self control during sex from that individual, and also what to ask for from women. By patronizing escorts since a tender age I became familiar with the concept of exchanging $ for certain goods and services. Then we graduated to strippers. Now this was a totally different ballgame since most were not escorts. So that process took some development of negotiation skills. Another skill set was therefore developed.

These skills remained dormant as I entered my mid-twenties and got into some serious real life monogamous relationships that lasted some time (months to years) and then got married. Most of my dating, for a while, consisted of real life experiences with no sugar undertones whatsoever. One of my real life relationships, at some point asked for some money so she could pay for her rent. Just like that, out of the blue, as she was a single mother. I felt a bit funny giving money to a 'civilian', i.e. a non-escort. But I did it anyway because I wanted to keep seeing her, and it helped her out a lot. And of course her gratitude showed in more ways than one. It still felt a bit strange to give her money though because I did not want to pay for someone's life. I figured 'Hey, I work hard, you do the same thing and pay your own rent. What do you need me for?'. And that attitude remained with me for many years, and still does in some ways. Now that I am getting a bit older though I have become more accepting, and more open minded to helping out others.

But how did NSA combine with sugar? After all, I have had plenty of NSA without sugar. So why the sugar now? Pretty simple, Watson. Like an SB said: 'Sugar cuts through all the bull'. That's exactly right. It begins as a negotiation, we know what we are there for, and if we like it, we hang out, and a relationship may develop from that. If not, we walk away and on to the next prospect. It just doesn't get any more efficient than that. I just fell in love with the efficiency of that process. I don't want to make it sound too mechanical, because it was not. I did become attached emotionally to certain individuals. Actually, even though I don't see them anymore, I still catch myself thinking about them sometimes and wandering what they are up to. You know who you are...

More later...