Amanda

Amanda works for American Arlines and she is based out of Dallas. She is the sweet girl that is trying to do something for herself and get out of debt. Well, I am glad we crossed paths and I am able to help her out. We exchanged emails and I got the impression right away that she was not too experience in this. Something about the writing style that seemed totally real, as if I was exchanging emails with a prospective girlfriend. As an aside, you should see some of the emails I receive. You can tell after a while who has done this before and who is relatively new to this. One clue is that she wanted to make sure we IM or talk before we meet (indicates nervousness or caution). I told her that we can meet outside the restaurant, and talk for 5 minutes: if we like what we see great. If not we can part ways right there without any hard feelings. She liked that idea. So we meet one nice Friday afternoon. I am waiting outside the place and she was running a few minutes late. Cell phone rings and she informs me she ran into traffic. That's one point for her: that she informed me instead of just making me wait forever like others have done in the past. So I keep waiting and I have the mental picture of her in my mind, she had emailed 2 pics earlier. She certainly had a warm and playful voice over the phone, so that's good...
Then I saw someone walking toward me. Is it her? The pic was with her hair down, and this person had her hair up. I am a hair person, so by having a different hairdo I was getting confused. What do I do? Do I say hello and risk getting humiliated if it is not her? I have certainly done that before. She put me out of my dillema by saying: do I know you? and this put me at ease right away, obviously a people person. Rolling with the punches I replied: 'hey, how are you, long time'.
She said my face looked mad just standing around there, but I was actually squinting because the sun was in my eyes!
By the way, I much prefer standing outside the place I am supposed to meet, rather than grabbing a seat at the bar and just waiting. Whenever I do that I feel like an old drunk.

Janice texted me today. I replied back and asked her how her friend was (you know, the one that chickened out of the 3 some few weeks ago). She did not respond. I hope that gave her the indication to go back and work on her friend a bit ;). I haven't had one of these in years and I want one really bad.

Do I ever get jealous? No, I like to think that I am not a jealous person (most times anyway). If someone has been seeing several people and choses someone else over me that's ok. There is always a plan B and maybe even a plan C.
I do get infatuated though, I find myself thinking about some of these sugar babies when I am not with them. Why? because even though it is an arrangement, we are all human and can develop feelings for each other. And if I hear anyone say otherwise, or that's impossible because it is an arrangement from the start, I would let them know how wrong they are. Actually, I am thinking about someone with big, beautiful brown eyes as I write these words.
(About an hour after I had sex with Denise, but that's a story for another day)

Do I get nervous when meeting someone? I really don't. I am sure in my 20's I did on occassion, but now, definitely not. I would say, the phone makes me more nervous. When I talk to someone, I like to see their face. The voice after all can play games with you. Even in business I talk to these people on the phone, but when I meet them in person I have a totally different first impression. So personal meetings are best. Once I can see the look in their eyes, speech patterns and body language I can tell if they are interested in me, nervous, disgusted etc, as I am very intuitive. I think I was only nervous on a couple of occassions. Don't remember why or with whom. It mainly related to the fact that they were late to show up, or I wasn't sure what they looked like (pretty or ugly or pretty ugly etc). I think I was getting nervous right before I met Alvarez, for those reasons. Mainly because she never sent a picture so I had no idea what to expect, so didn't want a 300 pound person walking toward me.

But why?

Why do women do the sugar baby thing? Obviously because they need the money, but how come some women do it and others don't? Maybe they don't have time for a full time job? Maybe they enjoy sex so may as well combine both in one shot.
I remember when I was a college student in my early twenties I seeked out arrangements like this with older women (not very successfully unfortunately, those were the days before Internet dating). I did it because of the sex with strangers which I always always loved, and was attracted to older women, and because the whole thing felt so deviant.

Dennise

She walked through the doors of the Hyatt Downtown and she was struck by the modern and trendy atmosphere. She was feeling nervous when she suddenly saw me from behind sitting in a sleek chair reading the Economist magazine. She touched the chair and said 'David?' and I turned around and smiled, and some of her jitters disappeared.